Dogs & Toddlers: Balancing Both Babies

Balancing life with a toddler can feel like a circus act most of the time, let alone when you throw a dog into the mix as well. Before my son became mobile our dog, Pandora, was rather unconcerned and uninterested with him. Occasionally she would investigate the little noise box when he began to cry, but other than that she more or less minded her own business. However, when my son, Embry, began to crawl then walk then sort-of run (it’s more of just a faster, less coordinated walk), Pandora started to take more notice. And my husband and I were met with a new challenge: keeping things peaceful and positive between the two.

Embry loves Pandora. His favorite thing to do is share his snacks and meals with her, which she of course thinks is great. This kindness has spawn a bit of a problem though, because Embry isn’t always trying to hand her food, though she can’t tell the difference since they’re basically the same height. So occasionally she’ll pull something out of his hand that he fully intended to eat and sometimes she can get a little pushy. Now, is this Pandora’s fault? Is she a bad dog? Absolutely not. She has learned that the child shares food and also doesn’t understand when he is trying to share with her versus not trying. My husband and I have begun creating space for Embry now while he is eating. We will sequester Pandora away, with a treat or toy of her own that she really enjoys until he has finished his snack or his meal and then have her return. She is thoroughly delighted to have the opportunity to have a peaceful moment to herself with her treat. He may enjoy sharing with her, but the latter effects of that behavior are confusing and unfair for Pandora. Creating space for Embry and teaching him to feed her less and less is important for their future together happily coexisting in our home.